Oh where to begin, I love my ladies far too much to see these kinds of things continue. Luckily I am at a point where a majority of my close female friends are married. However I interact with plenty of single women within my job or in friend circles. One thing most women have in common is they all receive attention, some good, some bad, and not all of it wanted. I will say I have never met a woman who did not enjoy the attention here and there. But stop seeking instant gratification, it does not bring long term happiness. My friend said to me today, "We're in a culture where everything is instant, fast food, social media, online shopping. But no one is actually happy from that, if you go on a road trip to get a certain type of food you have a destination in mind and something you really want, you aren't going to stop for crap or trash on they way right? The answer is no, of course you aren't. You have something in mind, so keep that in mind, don't be impatient for love, don't settle for cheap love."
Women right now are so caught up on "serial dating" and being in a relationship is more like a trip to the grocery store than an actual thought out partnership. I am not saying this to be harsh by any means, but it needs to stop. I have been guilty of this too. Maybe you have been single for awhile, maybe you are newly single. Either way stop allowing some shit half assed mass sent message from a guy dictate your time. Meaning, you get excited someone new and intriguing messages you or begins giving you attention. You eagerly get excited and decide to take it a step further after a week or so.... but let me tell you what happens. This guy you think is giving you attention, is also the guy friending tons of females online he does not know, hearting every photo posted on their profile, and indeed sending those same "hey you" messages to a ton of other people. I am sure there is some guy reading this rolling his eyes because he knows it's true. But face it social media makes the whole face to face interaction not as important, it makes it easier for men to get a yes over the law of averages. It also however shows you that person's habits, meaning you will be able to see if that guy messaging you is liking a ton of other womens photos and what not.
I am not saying there is anything wrong with flirting especially if you are single, I am saying from a female standpoint there are two things I learned. Everyone plays games, the people you want the most play them the most. People who have admirable looks or character traits feel they have an advantage when it comes to dating. All I am saying is ladies do not allow a message from a guy to hold any ground. What effort does that show? Now I know people who have met online and it works out but it isn't the "WYD" message at 1 a.m. or the hey how are you here and there. It is the person who is sincere and asks genuine questions and puts forth effort into getting to know you. Make a man put effort in, especially someone online, why? Remember you do not know this person, you know the 1 second of their day they post on social media. Two there is a difference between someone hoping for a quick meet, greet, and do the deed over someone who genuinely has good intentions.
As women we typically enjoy attention and there is nothing wrong with that, single women, taken women. The same goes for men, but meet people off the internet, know the difference between someone full of shit and someone genuine. The biggest difference is always effort and how a conversation flows, as well as the time the message is sent. I hate to say it but hold yourself to a higher standard and just say no thanks. Yes, you may be clarified as a "bitch" but it is a lot better than settling for 5 minutes of attention with someone who you should not be talking to in the first place. Don't ever make yourself less than what you are to gain the attention of the opposite sex. It's a lot more of an attractive trait and you can always be a good person by over communicating what you want versus don't want. Don't be the person to enable that type of behavior in men, stand up for yourself and do not settle for cheap love. It is supply and demand and you are allowing it to continue. So pick yourself up, and go after what you want. Put yourself in a situation to be successful and weed out the people you do not want to be with long term anyway.
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